The Year of Me

Year-of-Me

Apologies as I have not posted in a while, life has been crazy and I have moved to this fancy new website! I don’t usually do personal posts but I felt the urge to share recently. I feel like talking about the quality of life and how each individual has the choice of making the most out of life.

This post might lean more towards the cliché so if you aren’t about that, now is your cue to exit. Now you’re asking what can I, a 25 year-old woman, tell you about living and life? Truth is I can’t tell you anything for sure, I’m still figuring it out for myself. But what I can tell you is that the last few years have been hard.

I have struggled with anxiety and insecurity but in this last year I have overcome so many obstacles and proven my strength, to myself and others. I have become healthier, both physically and emotionally and I’m back to my overly optimistic self. My favourite thing to say over the last year has been, “I’m just being Miley”, from the Miley Cyrus song “See You Again” (I’m not even really a fan but the saying somehow suits how I’ve been living for the last year).

Looking back I realize for a period of time I wasn’t myself. Letting people into your life is a risk, a risk we make almost every day. It’s a risk that can change you for better or worse. For about two years after I graduated high school I felt like I needed a boyfriend, I craved that kind of affection. I became obsessed with finding someone to fill the void and I did something very unlike myself; I found someone and became so dependent on them that I forgot who I was.

After taking some time to put that behind me I started to find me again. The clock struck midnight and I have turned back into my confident, independent and wonderfully optimistic self and I could not be happier. So you want to know my trick? I have been single for about a year and a half now, it hasn’t exactly been by choice but I think it has been for the best. Basically, I am writing this to tell you what I have learned in the past year and a bit of being with my true soulmate, me (and maybe my sister).

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The Year of Me

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To everyone who has followed my blog for this long I want to thank you for all your support. I have a new domain name to make my website a little more personal but I won’t stop writing! All my past posts have moved to the new site and I will continue posting there.

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Fierce Females: Caitlyn Jenner

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I’m bringing back #FierceFemales in a different capacity and I wanted to bring it back with one of the fiercest females in the public eye today. On Monday, June 1st, 2015 Caitlyn Jenner, formerly Bruce Jenner, graced the cover of Vanity Fair Magazine with nothing but poise and grace.

There was a Katie Couric special and two Keeping Up With The Kardashians specials prior to Caitlyn going public as her true self but Vanity Fair was the first time Caitlyn Jenner has been in the public eye and it warmed my heart to see all the positive comments from fans and celebrities.

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Some are saying all of this is a media grab, another Kardashian circus to parade around, I disagree but if it is so what? The best part about this being so public is the conversation we are all forced to have because of it.

When my parents were young this wasn’t something that was discussed, so to sit down with them and watch those interviews and then have an educated adult discussion about all of this is a beautiful thing. Truth be told, I didn’t know a lot about what it meant to be transgender or transsexual and taking the time to watch these interviews really helped me learn more about it.

I posted a tweet the day the Vanity Fair cover was revealed showing my support and underneath is one of the replies I received:

It’s very sad to think about everyone out there who can’t be themselves because of how expensive it is for sex reassignment surgery. That being said, this is why I think what Caitlyn Jenner has done is so important. This conversation needs to be had so that other trans people can, hopefully, one day be themselves.

This means affordable medical support to help in the transition. Caitlyn Jenner wasn’t herself for 65 years, think about that for a minute, could you imagine something inside nagging at you for 65 years telling you this wasn’t right?

Laverne Cox, a very powerful woman who I idolize, said it best in a tumblr post of hers:

“Most trans folks don’t have the privileges Caitlyn and I have now have. It is those trans folks we must continue to lift up, get them access to healthcare, jobs, housing, safe streets, safe schools and homes for our young people. We must lift up the stories of those most at risk, statistically trans people of color who are poor and working class. I have hoped over the past few years that the incredible love I have received from the public can translate to the lives of all trans folks. Trans folks of all races, gender expressions, ability, sexual orientations, classes, immigration status, employment status, transition status, genital status etc.. I hope, as I know Caitlyn does, that the love she is receiving can translate into changing hearts and minds about who all trans people are as well as shifting public policies to fully support the lives and well being of all of us. The struggle continues…”

Prior to this life change Caitlyn has had an inspiring life and I can’t wait to see what she does next!

Note: I know people are upset about everyone commenting on just Caitlyn’s looks (see Jon Stewart) and I know I did, so I just wanted to post this to elaborate on the importance of what she is doing and how powerful I think she is.

Fierce Females: Caitlyn Jenner

Music: Frazey Ford

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So, my uncle told me about this brilliant musician last week and as it turns out I will be seeing her at the Winnipeg Folk Festival in less than a month! Canadian singer-songwriter Frazey Ford was born in Castlegar, British Columbia. She is a founding member of The Be Good Tanyas but her solo career began with the release of her album Obadiah in the summer of 2010.

The release of her second album Indian Ocean features the catchy song, “September Fields“. Her voice is something easy to listen to and the music is kinda dancey! It’s a really nice mix. Catch her at the Winnipeg Folk Festival Mainstage Saturday July 11 at 6:00PM before another Favourite Dan Mangan + Blacksmith! See you there!


 

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Muisc: Florence + The Machine

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So this powerhouse isn’t anything new but I haven’t featured Florence + The Machine on my blog and with their awesome new album out today I had to share! The band formed in London in 2007 with singer Florence Welch and Isabella Summers and a collaboration of other artists including Robert Ackroyd, Christopher Lloyd Hayden, Tom Monger, Mark Saunders, Rusty Bradshaw and Sam White.

Their next album How Big, How Blue, How Beautiful comes out TODAY! They released singles including “Ship To Wreck“, “What Kind of Man“, “Delilah” and “St Jude“. My favourite that I have been listening to on repeat is “Delilah” so I have embeded it below, you’re welcome.


 

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Fierce Females: Slut-Shaming on The Bachelorette

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“A slut is someone, usually a woman, who’s stepped outside of the very narrow lane that good girls are supposed to stay within. Sluts are loud. We’re messy. We don’t behave. In fact, the original definition of “slut” meant “untidy woman.” But since we live in a world that relies on women to be tidy in all ways, to be quiet and obedient and agreeable and available (but never aggressive), those of us who colour outside of the lines get called sluts. And that word is meant to keep us in line.”

― Jaclyn Friedman, feminist, writer and activist

So let’s talk about The Bachelorette, yes I watch The Bachelorette, The Bachelor and the Bachelor Pad. I keep my life low on drama so I need to get it somewhere!

The first episode The Bachelorette Season 11 aired on May 18. This season was met with mixed emotions as to how it was all going down. There were two favourites for this season Kaitlyn, a dance instructor from British Columbia and Britt a waitress from California.

In the end the show decided to have both of them, they would meet the 25 men and then they would pick who they wanted to remain for the duration of the season. This caused quite a stir on social media with fans and the Bachelor/Bachelorette Alum. Former bachelor Sean Lowe who found his wife on the show wrote a blog on why he thought this was a bad move for the new season.

“It’s downright degrading for the women – for the two chosen and the women watching at home. This move transfers the power back to the men on the show specifically designed for the women.  As one tweet said, ‘Once again, you’ll have women competing for the attention of men.'”

– Sean Lowe

Alas, this season was highly anticipated by fans. After 2 hours of drama on Monday and an additional hour on Tuesday, “Bachelor Nation” was getting vocal.

It was eventually revealed that the men decided on Kaitlyn. She was “the luckiest girl in the world” and now had some time to sit down and get to know the guys. She had to let a few of the men go at the end but it was a pretty tame show until the “bomb” dropped when they showed the season preview.

Now, I put bomb with quotations because it really shouldn’t have been a big a deal. In the preview it seems as though Kaitlyn has sex with one of the men, she is then seen talking to the men saying, “we had sex”. Now whether this is just a good editing job to make the season look more dramatic than it is or it actually happened it DOESN’T MATTER. The show did a good job of making Kaitlyn look like a villain for doing what many women do when they are dating, have sex.

So because show opened the slut-shaming door judgements shall follow. Now, people are entitled to their opinions but to slander someones name all over the internet is disgusting especially when you are passing judgement on someone you don’t know.

All you britt haters are going to wish it was her as the bachelorette instead of trashy kaitlyn by the end of the season when you find out what happens. Britt is so classy. I can’t stand kaitlyn and her potty mouth. She’s looking to be comedian, for a hook up and a good time. Not marriage material and someone you bring home to mama. I would much rather watch britt’s gorgeous face than constant licking teeth and trashy tattoos. Britt is classy and was actually looking for love. Big mistake abc! At least britt ends up the real winner!

– Ashley Hightower via Facebook

Comments like the above are juvenile they are setting us back instead of supporting and helping us grow stronger as a gender. Have a friendly debate or talk about it with your friends that agree with you. We live in a free country and you are allowed to disagree, have your own opinion and not support her actions but just because it’s on national television does not make it your business.

Everyone is jumping to conclusions and saying horrible things about someone they don’t know when we have no clue what the context is, or what happened. I’m ultimately disgusted with how people reacted but I am glad there was a significant number of people that not only called out the individuals for slut-shaming but also the show itself.


 
So she didn’t wait until the sanctioned “sex time” in the fantasy suite, who cares? We all have to remember that she is a human being and should get the same respect as any other human being regardless of what she does or doesn’t do in the bedroom. I commend her for being real, honest and owning it.

If anyone is still confused on how to not slut-shame please read “How Not To Slut-Shame A Woman” via Huffington Post.

Fierce Females: Slut-Shaming on The Bachelorette

Music: The Bros. Landreth

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The love of music for Winnipeg roots band, The Bros. Landreth, began when brothers Joey and Dave Landreth attended their father’s gigs as children. They recently released their first album with band members Ariel Posen and Ryan Voth. Fun fact because I’m from Manitoba and I thought this was cool, their first album was recorded in a straw bale house in southern Manitoba, during one of the coldest winters. I think they are referring to the winter where it was colder here than on Mars…

In 2015 they won the Juno Award for Roots & Traditional Album of the Year – Group. The two most popular songs off of their 2015 album Let It Lie are title track “Let it Lie” and “I Am The Fool“. I say “roots” in the paragraph above only because I feel I have to but I can’t totally put my finger on what genre they are, but I think that’s what I like so much about their music, you get such a variety on one album. The song I am sharing is a sad one, it’s about letting go and I think it’s quite beautiful.

I’m sorry that I left so soon / I left you standing at the gallows / You were all strung out / The hangman waiting for the sign


 

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