The Year of Me

Year-of-Me

Apologies as I have not posted in a while, life has been crazy and I have moved to this fancy new website! I don’t usually do personal posts but I felt the urge to share recently. I feel like talking about the quality of life and how each individual has the choice of making the most out of life.

This post might lean more towards the cliché so if you aren’t about that, now is your cue to exit. Now you’re asking what can I, a 25 year-old woman, tell you about living and life? Truth is I can’t tell you anything for sure, I’m still figuring it out for myself. But what I can tell you is that the last few years have been hard.

I have struggled with anxiety and insecurity but in this last year I have overcome so many obstacles and proven my strength, to myself and others. I have become healthier, both physically and emotionally and I’m back to my overly optimistic self. My favourite thing to say over the last year has been, “I’m just being Miley”, from the Miley Cyrus song “See You Again” (I’m not even really a fan but the saying somehow suits how I’ve been living for the last year).

Looking back I realize for a period of time I wasn’t myself. Letting people into your life is a risk, a risk we make almost every day. It’s a risk that can change you for better or worse. For about two years after I graduated high school I felt like I needed a boyfriend, I craved that kind of affection. I became obsessed with finding someone to fill the void and I did something very unlike myself; I found someone and became so dependent on them that I forgot who I was.

After taking some time to put that behind me I started to find me again. The clock struck midnight and I have turned back into my confident, independent and wonderfully optimistic self and I could not be happier. So you want to know my trick? I have been single for about a year and a half now, it hasn’t exactly been by choice but I think it has been for the best. Basically, I am writing this to tell you what I have learned in the past year and a bit of being with my true soulmate, me (and maybe my sister).

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The Year of Me

Fierce Females: Charlotte

Charlotte

What is it that empowers you most?
I think what empowers me most is that feeling I get when I force myself to do something I’m afraid to do. It doesn’t have to be anything major, it could be something silly like jumping off a diving board! but it makes me think “oh wow I can actually do that” and that builds momentum and allows me to do other things. Pushing through that fear is an extremely empowering feeling.

What is it that you love most about yourself?
I think what I love most about myself is my tenacity and work ethic. When I decide I’m going to do something I give it 100%.

What makes you feel most beautiful?
What makes me feel most beautiful is physical activity. I’m a very physical person and exercise makes me feel great. Nothing makes me feel more confident than hitting a perfect spike in a volleyball game or lifting a heavy weight at the gym. I love feeling aware of what my body can do.

Who is your biggest role model and why?
I would have to say my dad. He and I are different in a lot of ways but I really admire the way he balances work and family and he always keeps everything together through the tough times. No matter what he always put his kids first. He’s also smart and funny and extremely patient.

Who are your favourite cultural heroines and why?
Definitely Amelia Earhart. I think people forget how hard it was at the time for women to do what she did. Plus I’m afraid of flying so I’m impressed on that level as well. Also Sylvia Earle. She’s an amazing marine biologist and I’m blown away by her dedication to marine life and the health of our seas.
 

I want to seize every opportunity that comes my way and have a happy and fulfilling life before it’s over.

 
If you could pick one fictional female character to be for a day who would it be and why?
Ok I’m going to out myself as a huge nerd but I’m going to say Captain Janeway from Star Trek Voyager. First off, I want to go to space in a time where it’s totally safe and normal. Second, she’s an amazing authority figure and commands respect like no one else. It can be hard to identify with female characters on TV and in movies because they are so often one-dimensional sex objects. Janeway however, incredibly interesting and I’d love to spend a day in her Star Trek onsie.

What is your biggest life goal?
My biggest life goal is probably to die knowing that I made the most of my life. I’ve had enough ups and downs over the years to know not to get too hung up on specific goals so I think short-term and extremely long-term. I want to seize every opportunity that comes my way and have a happy and fulfilling life before it’s over.

What is your biggest accomplishment?
Even though I’m not practicing at the moment, I think graduation law school and getting called to the bar was probably my greatest accomplishment. It felt good to finally finish something I had worked so hard for. It made me feel like I can do anything I set my mind to.

What is your favourite quote?
“This too shall pass” It’s use is twofold. I repeat this to myself when I’m experiencing pain but also joy. It’s a nice reminder that all things, good or bad, are temporary. You need to either breath and get through it or breath and enjoy it.

If you could tell your 12-year-old self one thing what would it be?
I would tell my 12-year-old self that it’s ok to try things that other people think are stupid. Don’t get too hung up on what others think of you and don’t let yourself be pigeonholed.

What does feminism mean to you?
To me, feminism means that men and women are equally welcome in the world.  That means that women and men should feel equally welcome in all jobs, geographical locations and social settings and that they should each enjoy equal benefits thereof.

Charlotte is the owner of Hogwash Bath & Body in Winnipeg, Canada
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Music: Of Monsters And Men

Of Monsters And Men

I fell in love with Of Monsters And Men back in 2012 when I was checking out bands that were performing at Sasquatch! Festival that year. The song and video for “Little Talks“, off of their first studio album My Head is an Animal, was so different and captivating that I needed to know more! They are a five member band from Iceland made up of Nanna Bryndís Hilmarsdóttir (lead singer/guitarist), Ragnar “Raggi” Þórhallsson (co-singer-guitarist), Brynjar Leifsson (guitarist), Arnar Rósenkranz Hilmarsson (drummer) and Kristján Páll Kristjánsson (bassist).

After the release of their first album we got another taste of their sound with “Silhouettes” on the Hunger Games: Catching Fire Soundtrack and since late last year they have been hinting at new music. It was confirmed last Wednesday that they would be releasing a single this week, yesterday they graced us with “Crystals” accompanied by a lyric video featuring the happiest man alive mouthing the words. i forgot how happy their music made me, Nanna’s voice is incredible and those drums! Their new album Beneath the Skin is set to be released on June 9th and the deluxe edition includes 15 tracks.
 

Cover your crystal eyes / And feel the tones that tremble down your spine / Cover your crystal eyes / And let your colours bleed and blend with mine

 

 

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Quote: Meryl Streep

Meryl-Streep

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretence, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”

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The Head and the Heart

The Head and the Heart 7 (2011)

The Head and the Heart are a folk rock band from Seattle, Washington. They formed in 2009 with band members Josiah Johnson (vocals, guitar, percussion), Jonathan Russell (vocals, guitar, percussion), Charity Rose Thielen (violin, vocals), Chris Zasche (bass), Kenny Hensley (piano), and Tyler Williams (drums).

They put on one hell of a show. I think one of my favourite things about watching them live was how they interacted with one another. Watching Josiah and Jonathan together was almost like watching two little boys playing, they were a lot of fun.

I wish Charity did more solo singing her voice is something! I think it’s the way she pronounces words when she sings that makes her different, all I know is that I love it and I want to hear more of it.

The opening act was Basia Bulat a Canadian folk singer from Toronto, Ontario. Lead singer Basia Bulat rocks the ukulele, Autoharp and vocals. Bulat appeared with her brother Bobby Bulat on drums and Ben Whiteley on guitar and bass. I love going to shows for opening acts, it’s how I find some of my favourite bands.

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